This may be one of the most important decisions you make, apart from your perfect dress. The choice of bridesmaids and groomsmen is a key assessment of WHO would be able to assist you and stand by you in some very stressful moments and in many cases, help you to gather your mind and make decisions.
The bridesmaids and groomsmen are not only there to help make interesting and pretty pictures with fun poses. You need to be honest with yourself when choosing both your bridesmaids and groomsmen and assess a few traits you might need during the planning of your wedding, but also the wedding day itself;
- Is the person responsible
- Will they be forcing you to do something in the name of fun that is out of your comfort zone
- Will you be able to rely on them
- Do they have decision making skills or are they a source of good ideas
- Will they misbehave when taking in alcohol
- Are they going to be troublesome and bring UP issues between yourself and the bride or groom
- Can you appoint certain duties to them and trust that it will be done
- Will they calm you down and keep you focused
Of course everyone is different and has different things that are important to them so your list might be different from ours, but it’s very important to have such a list and to be honest with yourself on whether your first choice for bridesmaids and groomsmen will be the practical choice. This list will also help you decide on a maid of honor and a best man.
Once you have made your decision, you can move over to the fun part; planning their attire, gifts activities and more.
There are so many ideas for attire when it comes to bridesmaids and groomsmen – you will almost find it difficult to make a final decision. Just keep in mind that even though they should want to fit in with your decisions, you should still consider their body shape, insecurities and what their comfortable in – A good idea would be to collect a few ideas and have them decide on the final. Also, be sure to gather some interesting and fun photo ideas (depending on the comfort level of your wedding party) to give everyone an idea of what you have in mind and to ensure that you will be happy with your photos at the end of the day.
Regarding the wedding party gifts as a thank you for their assistance beyond the call of duty or to make up a hamper and using it to ask them to be your bridesmaids or groomsmen. Here you can really get creative and bring in their personality and personal styles.
A must do is some pre-wedding activities to loosen up those stressed joints and help build relationships between your guests. Just be sure not to become forceful of what you would love, forgetting what makes your wedding party unique. Plan something spontaneous and fun all of you will enjoy.
Whatever you decide on going with – just enjoy every moment!