We took this article from the website of brides.com as the advice given in it really resonates with truth and experience. Something all couples need as they embark on the greatest challenge of their lives, while facing the challenges of life together.


23 Pieces of the Best Marriage Advice EVER (Collected Over 13 Years) - Every couple should read this;


When Ashley and I got married thirteen years ago, we were young and in love, but we were also pretty clueless (me especially)! Along the way, we've had so many people share wise advice and life experiences with us, which has helped guide our family through good times and hard times.

 

Through the years, I've been collecting some of the best marriage advice others have shared with us (and some I had to learn through my own mistakes). If you apply these twenty-three principles below to your relationship, it could make a life-changing difference in your marriage.

 

  1. Choose to love each other, even in those moments when you struggle to like each other. Love is a commitment, not a feeling.
  2. Always answer the phone when your husband/wife is calling. When possible, try to keep your phone off when you're together with your spouse.
  3. Make time together a priority. Budget for a consistent date night. Time is the "currency of relationships," so consistently invest time into your marriage.
  4. Surround yourself with friends who will strengthen your marriage. Remove yourself from people who may tempt you to compromise your character.
  5. Make laughter the soundtrack of your marriage. Share moments of joy. And even in the hard times, find reasons to laugh.
  6. In every argument, remember that there won't be a "winner" and a "loser."You're partners in everything, so you'll either win together or lose together. Work together to find a solution.
  7. Realize that a strong marriage rarely has two strong people at the same time. It's usually a husband and wife taking turns being strong for each other in the moments when the other feels weak.
  8. Prioritize what happens in the bedroom. It takes more than intercourse to build a strong marriage, but it's nearly impossible to build a strong marriage without it.
  9. Remember that marriage isn't 50/50divorce is 50/50. Marriage has to be 100/100. It's not splitting everything in half, but both partners giving everything they've got.
  10. Give your best to each other, not your leftovers after you've given your best to everyone else.
  11. Learn from other people, but don't feel the need to compare your life or your marriage to anyone else's. God's plan for your life is masterfully unique.
  12. Don't put your marriage on hold while you're raising your kids, or else you'll end up with an empty nest and an empty marriage.
  13. Never keep secrets from each other. Secrecy is the enemy of intimacy.
  14. Never lie to each other. Lies break trust and trust is the foundation of a strong marriage.
  15. When you've made a mistake, admit it and humbly seek forgiveness. You should be quick to say, "I was wrong. I'm sorry. Please forgive me."
  16. When your husband/wife breaks your trust, give them your forgiveness instantly. This will promote healing and create the opportunity for trust to be rebuilt. You should be quick to say, "I love you. I forgive you. Let's move forward."
  17. Be patient with each other. Your spouse is always more important than your schedule.
  18. Model the kind of marriage that will make your sons want to grow up to be good husbands, and your daughters want to grow up to be good wives.
  19. Be your spouse's biggest encourager, not his/her biggest critic. Be the one who wipes away their tears, not the one who causes them.
  20. Never talk badly about your spouse to other people or vent about them online. Protect your spouse at all times and in all places.
  21. Always wear your wedding ring. It will remind you that you're always connected to your spouse and will remind the rest of the world that you're off limits.
  22. When you have to choose between saying nothing or saying something mean to your spouse, say nothing every time.
  23. Never consider divorce as an option. Remember that a "perfect marriage" is just two imperfect people who refuse to give up on each other.

 

Having a healthy relationship is even more important than a wedding to remember - so try to apply some of these tips to your relationship before you get married, for an even stronger relationship.

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Soms is die grootste probleem om alles wat jy in gedagte het vir jou troue saam te bind in een asemrowende pakkie. Kom ons help met idees oor hoe jy kleur op 'n stylvol manier by jou formele troue kan inbring.

 

Die grootste ding om te onthou is om jou gekose kleur subtiel en stylvol deel te maak van jou spesiale dag. Jy kan kleur inbring deur middel van jou blomme of spesifieke dekor items, sonder om dit te oorweldigend te maak. ’n Mooi manier om jou formele troue meer kleurvol te maak is met jou uitnodigings en ontwerp items.

 

Probeer ook om ’n kern aksent kleur te gebruik, maar dit nie die kleur van jou troue as ‘n geheel te maak nie. Omdat jou tema formeel is, moet jy aandag daaraan gee om die items wat jou aksent kleur bevat versigtig te kies. Wees objektief hieroor en besluit of dit by ‘n formele tema gaan pas en nie net gekies word omdat dit jou aksent kleur bevat nie.

 

Dit kan soms moeilik raak, veral as jou aksent kleur iets is wat nie tans in al die winkels beskikbaar is nie. Maak seker dat jy jouself genoeg tyd gee om te soek na die presiese items wat jy in gedagte het, maar hou dit ook in gedagte om voor die tyd jou aksent kleur mooi te oorweeg voordat jy dit finaal as deel van jou troue inkorporeer.

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One of the items on your very important list of things to remember when planning your wedding, is choosing your best man and maid of honor. If they are going to help with planning your wedding, form a list of duties which will be left in their hands. Also, ask yourself why you would like them to have the highest position at your wedding party.

 

That being said, we took this question to the internet and came up with some advice from the following two websites. We trust that this advice will help you make a decision and have peace with your choice, knowing your wedding sanity is in the right hands.

 

Firstly, we take a look at 5 ways to pick the right maid of honour or best man from Herworld.com, written by Felicia Tan, 26 Jan 2018:

 

Make this decision carefully, as they will be by your side throughout the entire wedding process – from the planning to the actual day, and possibly after.

  1. Family comes first
    If you have a brother or sister and are close, he or she should be your maid or matron of honour/best man, or man of honour/best maid or matron. This will save you the hassle of having to choose between your close friends.
  2. You can have more than one maid/matron of honour and/or best man
    There are no rules when it comes to the number of people you’d like to have in your wedding party. Whether you’ve got a best friend and sibling, or more than one best friend who you’re equally close to, consider asking the both of them to stand up with you on the day of.
  3. Pick the right qualities
    You will need someone who is responsible, is physically, mentally and financially available to help (because you’d be doing him or her a disservice if he or she is swamped with other responsibilities), and has seen you undressed (especially for brides who might need help going to the washroom).
    You also do not need: someone who’s self-centered, prone to histrionics, and so on. He or she should be your rock and anchor, and someone who’s able to support you while you go through the stresses of planning (and spending) for the wedding.
  4. The decision is yours
    Don’t let anyone influence you on your decision, as you have to feel good about your choice ultimately. If you think you can’t choose between your group of friends, then have a group of bridesmaids and groomsmen and do without the maid/matron of honour and best man.
  5. Look forward, not backward
    When drawing up your list, choose people who can and are going to be committed from the start to the end. Also, don’t choose people based on the fact that you’ve stood up for them at their wedding before. These should be people who you can see in your life going forward.

 

Secondly, we take a look at the advice given by Leah Messenger from Wedding ideas mag:

 

HOW TO CHOOSE YOUR BEST MAN


One of the groom’s duties is choosing his best man, as well as the rest of the groomsmen. But how do you make that decision? We’ve got a few things for you grooms to think about…


Think: options
Write up a little list of best man ‘contenders’ – your brother, your cousin, your dad, your best mate from when you were little, or a more recent one. The choice is really yours, but be realistic about who would make a good best man, or who would actually want the responsibility of a best man.


Think: duties
…this is where it pays to think of the duties they’ll need to take on! From sorting a stag do that all the groomsmen will enjoy to the big day responsibilities of welcoming guests, calming the groom, and of course the best man speech. Whoever you choose will need to be reliable enough for the role, as well as have, at least minimal, organizational skills…


Think: personalities
Do you think they’d manage with this level of responsibility? What about doing the speech in front of all your wedding guests? Being a best man can be a lot of pressure on a person, especially when it comes to the big day itself. But the question is, who d’ya think has got what it takes?


Think: wifey
As much as it’s the groom’s decision of who gets the role of best man, it’s always a good idea to choose someone that gets on well with the bride-to-be. That way, she’ll be worrying less about all of the group’s antics on the stag do, and the best man speech won’t be totally orientated around making a fool of the groom… (Maybe even making fun of the bride, too!).

Think: speeches
Talking of embarrassing speeches, before picking your best man, you should consider what kind of speech you’d want to get from him. The best man speech is something that is much-anticipated by the rest of the bridal party as well as the guests at the wedding. Whether you want a speech that cracks jokes throughout or something a little more mature perhaps, think about the best person to do that.


Think: more than one?
Do you know what? You don’t even just have to have just one best man. If it’s a tricky choice between two, why not just go for both? This will help the best man out in terms of splitting the responsibilities between them, and be a great help for you too! And hey, having to fit in a second best man speech means that you’ll just have to cut short your best mate’s speech full of humiliating stories. What a shame.

 

As you keep these tips in the back of your mind, remind yourself that they are just that, tips to help guide you in the decision making. These aren’t rules and in the end, you need to trust your heart and your gut on who to choose.

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Wedding Ring Bearer Ideas

  

Have you given any thoughts to how the rings will be presented before the altar? This will have a big influence on the logistics of the ceremony and who will be best suited for the title.

 

When we take a look at Pinterest and other social media, we can see that presenting the rings have become more and more important at weddings. This is an aspect of the ceremony that can be done so wildly different, depending on your personal style and how traditional your wedding is going to be.

 

Some of the most popular suggestions on social media include; Rough wood disks, with the bark still attached, which has your names and the date engraved. The wood disks can also be sanded and varnished for a more finished look.

 

Wood boxes with the inside lined out with material or some greenery from your flowers are also seen a lot. Another idea is a glass or Perspex box, filled with flowers in a resin mold with slots, cut in it for the rings to be placed in. These boxes can be kept plain or can have writing of some kind on it.

 

Other ideas include origami swans with the rings placed on the neck of the swan. Pyramid ring boxes made of glass in a rose gold framework and the rings dangling from a rose gold chain. A simple ceramic ring holder in plain white is also a beautiful option and can be used later on your dresser for your jewellery.

 

There are loads of options that can be personalized to match any wedding theme and setting.

 

Next thing to keep in mind is who will be the ring bearer and how will they bring the rings to you? If you choose an adult, it will be less complicating; but having a child all dressed up in their Sunday best is just so sweet and will take care of some beautiful and classic photo's.

 

Just remember to take time, do a little bit of inspiration research and plan this carefully, because you don't want to run down the isle, chasing a toddler who decides to keep your rings because their pretty or drops a glass box that shatters into a million pieces.

 

You can even have your beautiful box or ring holder set on a table near you t cancel out any complications.

 

What ever you end up choosing, make sure to take enough pictures.

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Whoop whoop! We have been waiting to announce this since we started with our new years resolutions.

So drum roll please.... brrrrrrrrm tsh!

 

The style of 2019 is colour, colour, colour. From colourful confetti to bridesmaids dressed in all shades of the rainbow. You can incorporate this style in any way you like, the possibilities are endless.

 

Whether you want colourful bouquets or stained glass vases with candles on your tables and a venue decorated in the colours of joy and laughter. This style is loaded with personality and pizzazz for that daring bride and groom who are leaping into the most adventurous chapter of their lives.

 

Just remember to keep a balance, as this non restricting style can quickly get out of control and start looking like a colour explosion. The best thing to do is to choose one or two places to incorporate your daring colour display. Like, for instance, if your flowers are colourful, rather have plain bridesmaids dresses with colourful shoes. Or if your bridesmaids are in all colours, make your invitations and wedding stationery bright and inviting.

 

This is definitely one of those times where control is key and less is more.

 

So let’s dive into some colour pallets for this oh so bright colour scheme:

 

According to Magnet street and their wedding colour trends article, the colours of choice are;

 

BLITHE
Soft Blush, Navy, Sea Mist, Custom Champagne. Pretty pink meets dapper navy blue for a palette that exudes absolute romance! Setting an elegant, soft tone for a breezy summer day wedding, this chic color combo incorporates mellow neutral hues that create a flawless mix of pretty-meets-preppy. Whether a garden-boho or modern wedding style—this palette offers timeless appeal and is dynamic across nearly any wedding theme. Plus, navy suits and tuxes are still hot and sharp as ever, making this palette even easier to incorporate!


CITRUS
Coral, Pink Glass, Evergreen, Blue Fog, Custom Olive .
Pantone’s color of 2019 is “Living Coral!” Sweet as a sunset on a summer evening, coral offers depth that is simply intoxicating. Coral and light pink intertwined with organic greens and blues speak to backyard barbeques, summer peonies, or a walk through a cool foggy forest. Great for a late-spring or summer soirée, this palette creates a sense of whimsy freshness while still being ultra-sophisticated. It’s easy to set a romantic-meets-fresh tone with this summer color combo.

SUNKISSED
Pineapple, Ivy Green, Soft Blush
Yellow! It’s the color of sunshine and sunflowers—making it a happy choice for a hot summer celebration. Yellow comes in a variety of hues, but we are so enamored with a pineapple shade as a trendy upgrade to the sunny yellows we’re all used to. Add in a beautiful ivy green and soft pink for a romantic and free-spirited combo that is perfectly befitting for a country summer wedding … and one that will leave guests smiling.


WILLOW
Green Willow, Celadon, Blonde, Peach, Lilac Mist
Warm soft shades of greens and pastels are back again for summer, and this ethereal palette proves it. Green willow, soft celadon, warm yellow and peach, and delicate lilac purple together create a tranquil combination that’s easy on the eyes. This color combo no doubt evokes the dream-like quality of elegant summertime nuptials or intimate garden celebrations. A rural setting, shabby-chic décor, and delicate florals make for a great backdrop of this romantically relaxed palette.

 

DEWDROP
Antique Sage, Pinor Noir, Soft Blush, Rainy Day, Greige
Let’s take a little step back in time, shall we? A vintage medley of sage, pinks, powdery blue, and greige juxtapose together in a way that brings us back to days gone by. Light minty sage and greige are romantic neutrals that come to life when paired with warm and cool shades found in nature—think blush peonies and a serene summer sky. This mellow combination is great across any summer wedding style, but especially one with antique flair!

 

SURF
Teal Waters, Antique Sage, Mint, Ivory
The seaside on a breezy, hot summer day inspires a palette of a stunning jewel-toned teal balanced by super-cool neutrals. Modern, hip, and minimal, teal adds a unique and astounding punch of color to any summer wedding celebration! Bold and vivid, you don’t need much for a picture-perfect wedding adorned in teal. It definitely makes a big, yet approachable statement when accented by subtle greens and ivory. Like the rolling waves of the sea, this combo flows with beauty and sophistication.


COASTAL
Antique Blue, Serene Sky, Parchment, Peach, Terracotta
Ah yes, another palette inspired by the rolling waters of a coastal summer. Peaceful and dreamy, this color combo of blues and twilight sun tones captures the essence and magic of an approaching summer evening. Whether a waterside wedding or not, this fusion of color can be seamlessly incorporated through natural décor elements, fiery late-summer blooms, stylish glassware, and organic textures. There’s ample harmony in this cool-meets-warm color combo that will paint a picture-perfect serene summer wedding!

 

SERENE
Blue Fog, Antique Blue, Clover Green
You can almost feel the balmy breeze in the mountains with this cool, subdued color palette! Organic blues and foliage-based green together create a restful aura, guaranteed to surround a summer wedding in romance. This color palette is lovely across a variety of wedding themes, too! We love the elegant, outdoorsy, and slightly vintage ambiance of it—but see these colors looking beautiful with modern wedding décor, too. Dress it up or down for magical wedded day bliss.

 

On Sheckford Hall’s website we can see their favourite colours for 2019 are:

 

Green fit for royalty

On the 19th May 2018, Meghan Markle had all eyes on her as she walked the long aisle of St Georges Chapel in Windsor Castle. A simple palette of white and green surrounded the ceremony, offering purity and elegance. Looking at the professional photos from that day, it’s not hard to see why green has become THE colour for 2019 weddings. The beautiful thing about this simple colour combination is that it can be complimented with so many other shades, helping you create your own version of this gorgeous choice. If you want the rustic effect, wooden accessories look great as a background, allowing you to bring the outdoors in with twigs, tree stumps and rustic crates as part of your décor. Add glamour with flashes of sparkle and gold, whether it’s part of centre pieces or in the bridesmaid dresses. The perfect way to add an extra feminine touch. If you wanted to add more colour, pastel shades would be idyllic. Blush and lemon offers a refreshing splash, keeping it simple but effective.

Colours of paradise

The amazing thing about nature is that colours can come together offering the most glorious effect. You can mix all sorts of tropical colours from vibrant pinks to stunning oranges, deep greens to striking blues. These colours can brighten any space, giving your wedding theme that extra excitement and drama. If you are a bit of a traveler, it’s also a great way to incorporate a touch of the wanderlust feel, promoting the beautiful colours of your travels and the natural sunsets that you have enjoyed.

 

Purple Hues
Purple is one of those colours which never goes out of style. Its various shades may edge in and out of popularity, but the colours itself stays a firm favourite in our brides and groom’s eyes. This year we have seen an increase in our couples choosing a single colour theme, violet weddings being one of them. Moving into 2019 however, we can see a trend towards various shades of a single colour being more popular. Keep an eye for a mix of violets, lilacs, magentas, heather and grape, to really add depth into floral arrangements and wedding décor.

 

Blue and blush

Blue and blush together can offer various effects, depending on the shades you use. If you decide on paler shades, this look is so subtle and adds an angelic charm to your wedding. These shades can sweep across your invites, flowers, table centre pieces and bridesmaid dresses, creating a world of calm. Other pastel shades can be incorporated into the theme but keeping it to just two shades can be truly stunning. Taking your blue to a navy, helps add a pop of colour to your day, offering the blush a contrasting colour to stand out against. Navy bridesmaid dresses allow you to keep your wedding accessories and décor simple and delicate, yet still maintaining that element of opulence, glamour and sophistication.

 

Enchanting Forest

Edging back towards the more natural shades, using the muted colours of the forest offers a look of moodiness and mystery, especially for the Autumn months. This colour theme takes elements from each of the top colour trends from 2018 and creates one stunning theme. Muting the tropical colours, adding a touch of blush, complimenting with whites and offering a backdrop of a rich deep green creates the look and feel of woodland colours and is nothing short of stunning.

So the choices are endless for your wedding day colour palette. 

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